Glad to have gotten this today. I somehow found your Ted Lasso so appropriate for something I have struggled with. I was in therapy with an awesome therapist until something changed but I couldn't put my finger on it. A month later, her mom and step -mom died within two days of each other. She returned to work after a week, but I wasn't okay with it as we had been working on mom and step-mom issues in my life. She wouldn't share much which was her prerogative, but I felt so much in shared grief for her. I was a Hospice worker and have had my own share of grief in my life. Perhaps her moms were not well, I don't know. I just wanted to, as you wrote, "When you are sitting with people in grief are you wholly able to be there without your own discomfort asking them to feel better? Can you truly stand with people in their sorrow?" I couldn't due to professional ethics which I understand and she wanted to maintain that standard. I couldn't draw a line for myself and be truly myself at the same time. I had to leave that relationship, which I have had a hard time reconciling. Just being able to say it here, helps. Thanks for the quoted thoughts as it helped me move forward.
Thanks for sharing this Peggy. Yes it’s such a tricky space particularly in healing, therapeutic relationships right? I’m sorry this has been a source of struggle for you. I’m glad that this was a space to process that in a small way. ❤️ take care - Kelley
Love all this. Actually looked for your podcast last week so I’m primed and ready. :)
Re: change ... yes, been forced through it and chosen it, but either way, i always learn something. Mostly how impatient I am. I’m not sure anything has helped and also challenged me more in this season of life than the news that “love is patient.”
And yes, the practice of patience. Reread this the other day in Oliver Burkeman’s 4000 Weeks - “Patience becomes a form of power. In a world geared for hurry, the capacity to resist the urge to hurry, to allow things to take the time they take, is a way to gain purchase on the world. To do the work that counts and to derive satisfaction from the doing itself instead of deferring all your fulfillment for the future.”
Can't wait to catch up on the new podcast episodes. I'm so glad you're offering this to us.
Glad to have gotten this today. I somehow found your Ted Lasso so appropriate for something I have struggled with. I was in therapy with an awesome therapist until something changed but I couldn't put my finger on it. A month later, her mom and step -mom died within two days of each other. She returned to work after a week, but I wasn't okay with it as we had been working on mom and step-mom issues in my life. She wouldn't share much which was her prerogative, but I felt so much in shared grief for her. I was a Hospice worker and have had my own share of grief in my life. Perhaps her moms were not well, I don't know. I just wanted to, as you wrote, "When you are sitting with people in grief are you wholly able to be there without your own discomfort asking them to feel better? Can you truly stand with people in their sorrow?" I couldn't due to professional ethics which I understand and she wanted to maintain that standard. I couldn't draw a line for myself and be truly myself at the same time. I had to leave that relationship, which I have had a hard time reconciling. Just being able to say it here, helps. Thanks for the quoted thoughts as it helped me move forward.
Thanks for sharing this Peggy. Yes it’s such a tricky space particularly in healing, therapeutic relationships right? I’m sorry this has been a source of struggle for you. I’m glad that this was a space to process that in a small way. ❤️ take care - Kelley
Love all this. Actually looked for your podcast last week so I’m primed and ready. :)
Re: change ... yes, been forced through it and chosen it, but either way, i always learn something. Mostly how impatient I am. I’m not sure anything has helped and also challenged me more in this season of life than the news that “love is patient.”
Oh thanks Jonathan for listening.
And yes, the practice of patience. Reread this the other day in Oliver Burkeman’s 4000 Weeks - “Patience becomes a form of power. In a world geared for hurry, the capacity to resist the urge to hurry, to allow things to take the time they take, is a way to gain purchase on the world. To do the work that counts and to derive satisfaction from the doing itself instead of deferring all your fulfillment for the future.”
(sigh)